Stuff I Wish I Knew Earlier by Danukarjanto Luki

Author:Danukarjanto, Luki [Danukarjanto, Luki]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781771802406
Publisher: Iguana Books
Published: 2017-11-19T05:00:00+00:00

Every encounter can be meaningful

Everyone knows they need to network; however, many people don’t know how. I attribute part of the challenge to the seeming death of the art of conversation. I suppose it’s not dead per se, but the traditional romantic sense of what a conversation should be — a face-to-face, meaningful interaction — may be something of the past. Although we are more connected as a society, because many conversations take place over text or other message platforms, our interactions with each other tend to be superficial and our social media posts are easily curated to include only the best of ourselves. But what about everything that makes us who we are? Finding out all that information about each other starts by having a proper conversation. There is no substitute for a face-to-face interaction when you Build Meaningful Connections.

If you’re an introvert, you might have reservations around having to BMC and all it entails. However, even as an introvert, you have it in you to make these connections. Give yourself a shot, and don’t give up easily. You can’t expect yourself to BMC like a pro right off the bat.

To BMC, you have to start at the end and work backwards. Start with the C (Connections), then work at making the connections Meaningful, then Build them further. You first need to start that conversation or send that initial message. That can be a daunting task, but again, with practice, you can get over the fear of building those connections.

After the thrill of meeting people during frosh week at university wore off, I reverted to my introverted tendencies. It wasn’t until my third year that I tried to make the connection I described in Chapter 2 (the terribly awkward one from one study carrel to the next) and oh my goodness, yes, it was awkward the first time, but I soon improved. It took a long time to get to a point where I was perceived as an extrovert. However, if you see me at a networking event, my faux extroversion abounds, but by the end of the evening, I’m exhausted and you can often find me in a corner letting out a sigh, working on summoning the strength to have one last conversation.

I’ve discovered that approaching conversations with the intention to mentor the other person or help them in some way is a useful way to leverage my strengths, and it has helped me gain energy and make the conversations much more meaningful.

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